How to Avoid Workplace Drama
Drama Triangle & How to Remove Yourself from "Whala"
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Hey friends 👋🏻
Hope your week is coming along nicely.
On this edition of The Workplace Newsletter, we’d be talking about Workplace Drama and what to do to remove yourself from it all.
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Let’s get started!!!
Gossip mongers. Fire starters. Blame merchants…
Every company has that person(s) who likes to gossip, blame others, or start a fire. If you can’t tell who is in your company, chances are it’s you!
You’ll be more productive if you identify these people and avoid being dragged into their energy-draining drama.
Here are 5 practical actions you can take today to remove yourself from workplace drama and stay focused on what truly matters (getting sh*t done & doing so with your peace intact)
1. Don’t Feed the Drama Triangle
In 1968, psychiatrist Stephen B. Karpman proposed the Drama Triangle, which includes three roles: the victim, the rescuer, and the persecutor. Drama persists when people play these roles.
Be aware of which role you’re tempted to fall into (or being dragged into) and consciously step out.
If you must be involved, take a problem-solving or coaching approach. For example, ask questions like, “Why do you think that happened?” or “What do you think you could do about it?”, etc.
Remember, in the words of Nigerian philosopher & singer Davido “I’m unavailable”
2. Set Clear Personal Boundaries
Boundaries are your first line of defense.
Decide what kinds of conversations or behaviors you will not participate in—like gossip, blame games, or constant complaining. When someone tries to pull you in, redirect the conversation or excuse yourself politely.
Remember, silence cannot be misquoted.
3. Practice the Pause
Before reacting to a tense email, a rude comment, or a frustrating meeting, pause.
Try one of my favorites:
Taking a few deep breaths.
Counting down from 10 to 1 (repeat for about 3 to 5 sets)
Asking a colleague to read the email before you send it
Give yourself a moment to choose a calm, measured response. This simple habit keeps you in control and prevents you from being swept into emotionally charged situations.
Remember, you cannot unsay any harsh or rude words once they leave your mouth or outbox.
4. Build Trustworthy Alliances, Not Cliques
Healthy work relationships are crucial—but there’s a difference between connection and conspiracy.
Avoid aligning yourself with any “side” in office politics. Instead, focus on building professional, trust-based relationships across different groups. Be known as someone who listens without judgment and acts with integrity.
Remember, “There are no permanent enemies, and no permanent friends, only permanent interests” — Lord Palmerston, former British Prime Minister & Statesman
5. Focus on Your Circle of Control
You can’t control other people’s behaviors, but you can control your mindset, actions, and reactions.
Keep your attention on doing your job well, supporting your team with positivity, and maintaining emotional clarity. If it doesn’t concern you, don’t get involved. Don’t react when provoked. It’s a test; don’t fall for it.
Remember, drama thrives in distraction; emotional maturity is the antidote.
Final Thoughts
Workplace drama is inevitable, but participation is optional.
By creating emotional boundaries, staying self-aware, and choosing your responses carefully, you can rise above the noise.
If you enjoyed this, restack and share so someone else will benefit too.
Until Next Week,
— ❤️ Azodo.
Great share, thanks for sharing!